Situationships

Urban dictionary defines situationships as “ a relationship that has no label, like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.” In 2018 this “dating” world is more complicated than before. No one wants to commit anymore, better yet what is commitment?

I’ve had my fair share of situationships more than I would actually like to have had. No one expects things to lead to one at the beginning. One thing leads to another and before you know it you’re caught up with feelings questioning if they feel the same way towards you.

In the beginning, everything is great you go out on a couple dates, you kick it with one other. Before you know it things start to change and they change for no apparent reason. Six months pass and you’re still in the “talking” stage of things. Next thing you know it’s been and year, …are you wasting your time or is he really the one sis?

It’s hard, no one ever sees themselves getting into a situationship. It’s even harder when you care for someone and your gut is telling you they don’t care half as much as you do.

It hurts, no one ever asks to be in a situationship. Feelings don’t just happen overnight, someone must be doing something and “entertaining” in order for feelings to arise. I feel as if these last few years of me dating have been nothing more than a situationship after situationship. It gets old– it’s actually been old.

There becomes a point when a woman realizes her self-worth. Each of my situationships have been totally different from the last but I gain something from each of them. I wish I could gain it without the sole purpose of a situationship but everything happens for a reason. I often blame myself. “Am I not good enough, pretty enough, what is it exactly? I don’t understand why this person doesn’t see the good they have in front of them.” I eventually realize I can’t put the sole blame on me, it takes two people in order for a relationship to work.

We have to care for ourselves before we can genuinely care for anyone else in a romantic matter. This too shall pass ladies, but you have to remove yourself from the situation before any good can come. You gotta overvalue yourself sometimes. Know your worth and add taxes to it.

Have you ever been in a situationship? If so how did it turn out? Did anything ever move forward because of it?